Nobody would dispute that a quickie at the right time can be awesome. The classic quickie will get the job done if you’re simply looking for a way to let off steam and satisfy yourself as quickly as possible.
But if you find yourself in a position (no pun intended) where fast and frantic sex is the only kind of sex you know, you could be denying yourself something great.
It’s not that fast sex doesn’t tick many of the right boxes, but it is instead down to the fact that slow sex is an entirely different experience.
Here’s a fact most men will probably deny – the average time it takes a man to orgasm during sex is between five and 7 minutes.
By contrast, most women don’t even come close to climaxing in such a short period.
Even so, slow sex isn’t exclusively about investing more time and effort, and pleasure in your partner. It is about that, but it’s also about making things significantly more enjoyable for you.
From hook-ups with escorts to conventional dates to live cam girls to committed partners, the benefits of slow sex extend to literally all types of sexual encounters.
If it’s not something you’ve tried to date but are nonetheless curious about, here are just a few of the unique benefits of slow sex (and how to make the most of them):
More Eye
Sustained eye during sex intensifies both emotions and physical sensations. It’s the kind of thing that brings you closer together, with a feeling of intimacy and oneness that can seriously spice things up.
Plus, staring into your partner’s eye can be a great way to see exactly how well you are doing your job regarding how they respond to your various moves. Eye takes all the feelings and emotions you experience during sex and turns them up to 11.
Teasing and Tantalizing
The intensity and enjoyment of the final payoff when having sex will always be linked with the buildup. It’s like anything else – put in the necessary prep work, and the result will always be better.
All-action jackhammer sex is fine but doesn’t give you much time to gently tease and caress each other. The longer you spend on activities like these, the more exciting and enjoyable the whole thing becomes.
It may only take 5 minutes of sex to orgasm, but this doesn’t mean you can’t invest as long as you like in the buildup.
Edging
One of the most amazing aspects of slow sex is how it allows you to play around with edging. This is basically where you bring your partner right to the edge of having an orgasm, only to stop then.
You give things a few minutes before repeating the cycle, continuing as many times as you can. In doing so, you enjoy an incredibly hot experience in its own right and take the pleasure of the final product to an entirely higher level.
Edging amplifies and intensifies orgasms like almost nothing else, though it is a bedroom activity that requires self-control.
More Creativity
Extending the same-sex session to a good hour or two, you could get innovative. The more time you allocate for sex, the more time you’ll have to be creative with the whole thing.
Think about it – how likely will toys, games, restraints, role-playing, etc., appear in a short five-minute bang?
Exploring kinks with a partner (or anyone else) can transform otherwise moribund sex into something spectacular. It allows you to delve deeply into your kinky side and to see what kinds of ‘unconventional’ activities get you both going.
Less Pressure
As a bonus, you’ll quickly find that focusing more on the experience and less on the final result puts much less pressure on both of your shoulders.
You’re not simply attempting to rush each other to orgasm as quickly as possible, but instead concentrating on giving and receiving pleasure, which is when you think about the whole point of sex.
Give slow sex a try, and you may find it unnecessary to have an orgasm to have an amazing time in bed.